Sex in times of war: advice from an expert
Sex is a physiological need. People satisfy their basic instinct under any conditions, climate changes, political systems. And even in times of war. Although sometimes it seems inappropriate to some people.
Ukrainian families are divided. Some partners have not seen each other for more than a year. What to do if you want to, but your partner is far away, says psychosexologist Anna Revunets.
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What can you do to relieve the tension that arises?
Masturbation is extremely appropriate now. You can do it the way you like: using your hands or sex toys. Maybe you’ve been wanting to try something for a long time, so don’t wait, experiment.
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Not wanting to have sex: is it normal?
Yes, it is. And it is normal. During stress, some hormones suppress others, so your partner may lose the desire to have sex for a while.
During the war, in such difficult, extremely stressful situations, a person’s desire to run to survive comes to the fore. But the function of reproduction (and sex is originally about procreation) fades into the background. Because you can’t run to survive and think about the appearance of future generations at the same time: either/or.
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What to do to regain sexual desire?
First of all, tell your partner frankly about it. Explain that it’s not because your feelings towards him/her have changed, but because of anxiety and worries.
Secondly, you need to minimise the amount of information about the war, distance yourself a little and use the things that used to relax and turn you on – music, massage, an erotic film.
